No, this post isn't about kittens. But aren't they the cutest?!Now, don't get me wrong, I know that the "first look" is very popular these days, and it is definitely the smart way to schedule your wedding day. You have plenty of time for pictures, whereas if you wait until after the ceremony to take them, everything will be a lot more rushed, which doesn't sound very romantic! My brother got married last October and he and his bride-to-be took all of their pictures before the ceremony. And here's the thing--their wedding was probably the most emotional wedding I've ever been to! Tears were streaming down his face as he saw his now-wife walking down the aisle toward him. It started a chain reaction of crying that my mother and I couldn't even escape, and we hardly ever cry!
So I know that seeing each other before the ceremony doesn't necessarily mean that the ceremony won't be emotional and special. But I know myself and Mr. K. And for some reason I feel like doing a first look may not be the right thing for us. This hunch stems from the fact that neither one of us is very emotional, so we need to save up all the emotions for the ceremony and not "waste" them ahead of time!
So I know that seeing each other before the ceremony doesn't necessarily mean that the ceremony won't be emotional and special. But I know myself and Mr. K. And for some reason I feel like doing a first look may not be the right thing for us. This hunch stems from the fact that neither one of us is very emotional, so we need to save up all the emotions for the ceremony and not "waste" them ahead of time!
I was pretty secure about the idea of not doing a first look until I started noticing that nearly every Weddingbee recap included a first look before the ceremony (lately, Mrs. Cupcake's and Mrs. Avocado's come to mind). And every bee who had a first look had AMAZING pictures to show for it! It makes sense. When you are making a large investment in your photographer, maybe you should take advantage of that fact and take pictures all day, not just after the ceremony. Because we aren't doing a first look (as of now!), we will be having a long cocktail "hour" (1.5 hours) so we can make sure we have enough time for photos! And that brings up problems of its own! Will guests be bored after an hour and a half of waiting around for dinner to start? Will they run out of things to talk about? Will the tab for our consumption bar be sky-high because of adding the extra half-hour? All because I want to see Mr. K tear up when I meet him at the end of the aisle?! Is this crazy?! What do you think?
Are you doing a first look? Or are you waiting until you walk down the aisle?
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Aw, that is a tough decision... I have the same thoughts about as you do! I think when my time comes it will be a hard decision. I will probably not do a first look just because i've been with my bf for 7 1/2 years, I want it to be as emotional as possible!! haha. I have seen some really incredible first look pics though... hmm!
I think some brides and grooms choose to do a first look not only for the pictures, but because they find it more emotional to experience that "first look" moment alone (well, alone with the photographer) and not in front of all those guests. Since the Dude and I are both pretty shy, I think we'd be more likely to express our true emotions in a first look than during the ceremony. I'm pretty sure I'll cry both times, but I think the first look will be almost more special than the Dude seeing me when I walk down the aisle, and I'm OK with that. I think it's a totally personal decision, though.
And to answer your other question, I know I won't be bored for an hour and a half of mingling, but I might help run your tab up, haha.
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